Jonathan Carter

Relocation

"On the Move with Kids"

If you have children, one of the most important issues of relocation is their reaction to the news that they're moving.  Staying informed is very important to kids.  We make a huge mistake when we assume they don't care or won't understand the details.  Consulting with them about choices whenever possible and including them in the whole plan will make a big difference in their transition and adjustment.

• Let your preschool age kids share their fears and feelings about the move.  Provide reassurance, and show them pictures of their new destination.
  Make them responsible for boxing up their toys and labeling their boxes with crayons and stickers.
   

• Your elementary age kids may be most concerned about the changes in their everyday routines.  Show them pictures or videos of their new home, especially places for things they like to do.  If your child is a dancer, share information about the studio she/he can attend.  If your child plays soccer or baseball, show them pictures of the park they'll play at.  Anything that provides them with some sort orientation is really helpful.
   

• Your teenagers might be most concerned about fitting in.  They're worried about friends, school, and the clothing, hairstyles, cars bicycles, etc.  that the new kids will have.  Any information, pictures, or even an orientation trip prior to the move will go a long way to help calm some of these fears.

 Other tips:

• Give younger children a fun travel kit for the move.

• Give older children a diary to record the move.

• Children of all ages can use an address book and stationery for staying connected with their old friends.

• Take videos of the new home if the kids can't see it before the move.

• Give each child a chore to do when you arrive.  Younger kids can work in their room; older kids can supervise their siblings; older kids can paint and arrange furniture.

• As soon as possible, take a break with the family to explore museums, sights and recreation possibilities in your new area.

• Visit schools and arrange a meeting with teachers before the actual "first day".

• Encourage your kids to bring new friends home.

Remember that our children take a lot of their clues about how to react from watching us.  Keep your own attitude upbeat and excited, and the kids are more likely to follow that example.  We can help make your financial arrangements for buying your new house stress-free.  We've been doing it for years.  Call to set an appointment.